Over the years we have recieved  concerns over wet windows on cold winter days.  This is a problem common to all new homes and to all new home builders.  The biggest cause is too much moisture in your new house.  We must remove the moisture that is caused from cooking, showering, etc.  Our bodies alone create moisture so a family of 5 can really produce a lot of water that will condense on the cold windows.  The new homes really are so tight.  For example, in our homes we foam around the windows, being careful to foam far enough into the frame so that we cover where the wood jamb extension and vinyl meet.  Also, every mechanical vent that comes out of the house is fully sealed.  We also put sill gasket under all doors.  And we have just started to foam not only from the inside, but from the outside as well.  When you foam from the inside only, you cannot fill the entire depth of the window.  We probably only get 60% of that cavity filled when you insulate only from the inside.  Now, we fill 99% of the window cavity.  Now with all that sealed up there really is no air movement in the house anymore.

Get a hygrometer and get the moisture down to 50% by using a dehumidfier.  Also, calfornia shutters don't allow your windows to "breath".  Open those up during the day.  Keep a ceiling fan going all the time during the winter. Move that air around.

You could install an Heat Recovery Ventilation System. Expensive though. And I'm not too sure about sucking all your warm air out all winter - I think there are more effective ways to remove moisture.

These wet windows are not caused by poor window design or lack of insulation.  In fact, it's just the opposite.